What Is Leadership?

A Leader is someone who takes charge, a guide, a frontrunner, one who is dependable and has a "get it done" attitude. Someone who is in control, who has authority, a go-to when you have an important project to complete, or a new idea you want to introduce.

When you think of leaders and leadership you may think of the Owner of a company, a CEO of a corporation, an Entrepeneuer who started a business, someone at the helm of an organization...Even without a leadership title, there are those that always get the job done. From top sales people to community volunteers, they have drive and ambition, and they are always successful month after month.. 

But what got them there? How does someone end up being defined in that role as Leader? How did they become the one that now guides that organization, and drives them to their objectives?

There are always those that stand out, even in childhood...you have the star athlete, the standout in the school play, the president of the school government...and so on. Charisma seems to be something that some are just born with. Others have to work hard at their popularity...but it doesn't have to be so.

When you define and follow your passion, your natural talents will stand out. You will drive your successes and become the leader. You will become the go-to and the frontrunner. Those youngsters that were successful early in life were using their natural talents...and many times that's accidental. As an adult, we learn what our strengths are from experience (and yes, sometimes by accident), but hopefully by design.

Follow your passions. Base your objectives on them. Set your goals in such a way that they become stepping stones to those objectives. Stop living your life as a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. You will become an amazing leader once you're working with your natural strengths and talents and marching down the right path

Why You Need Me...

What do you want to be when you grow up, and how are you going to get there?

Age old questions that we've been asked since childhood...and how many times has your answer changed? Many of us know exactly and precisely what we want to focus our lives on...and some of us can't quite nail it down. Why is that?

Well, certainly because we are all unique. And sometimes we know what, but not how. I've been finding that a lot lately...it's not what, it's how. People are knowing they want to travel a certain path, but they are uncertain and need a guide...a mentor. It's not always about what the goal is, but how you are going to get there.

And sometimes you need someone to help you think things through, talk about the options, make you dig a little deeper, hold your feet to the fire...you need to be accountable for getting from naming your goal... to getting to your goal...defining and developing.

It's been said that life experience can be the Ph.D. you offer your clients in your business. Someone can always see things more clearly when they look from the outside in. Fresh perspectives, and being able to talk through your ideas candidly and openly in a collaborative environment are invaluable.

So take a look at working with a Life Coach...your personal growth and development in all areas of your life will benefit!

Skipping Time

Isn't it interesting how we make so many promises to ourselves, and then we break them? Why do we do that? We keep our promises to others everyday. If you have a job, you show up to work...If you have children, you care for them daily...You show up for your spouse or significant other.

Why do most of us break our own promises?

Why do we let time go by? It flies...It slips...We end up on the other side of a day, or a week or a year...and we haven't accomplished the thing we set out to do.

We carry with us emotional baggage that makes us procrastinate. Unfortunately Louis Vuitton was already taken, so we call our baggage grief, fear, depression, sadness...Excuses that we all use, so we help each other, "enable" each other to get away with it. We are all so understanding of each other because we have all experienced emotions that hold us back...We have all experienced "reality".

But emotion is the very thing that can propel us to the next level...so, how do you get off of the baggage carousel of negative thought and into alignment with your good thoughts? The ones that give you joy and happiness and excitement...where you glow and shine and exude confidence. How do you shield yourself from the negativity that surrounds us, and start surrounding yourself with positive energy?

Recognition. Changing your responses. Changing your conversations. The ones in your head, and the ones you're having with others. Everyone has heard the saying "you are what you eat" , so why do you think "you are what you think" would be any different?

"Reality" can be a big scary monster when you always expect the worst. Or you can make your own reality...by looking for the good in your life, and when you don't see it, ask why? Good is always there. You might just have to focus in a different direction.

Get The Noise Out

Can one conversation really change your life? Of course it can! I bet every person you meet can tell you a story about it...it's called chance. But if you are aware of what's going on in the world around you and you don't leave your life to chance...chances are you'll find yourself much more successful. Much more at ease in a world filled with dis-ease.

Someone once told me that I should "grow up" that what I wanted to do was merely a "hobby and a waste of time". That I should focus on reality and not fantasy. Well, sorry to say that I am a dreamer...and a pretty darn big one at that...but it keeps me moving and creating, coming up with ideas, continuing to learn...wanting to share and, yes, build a great big "kingdom"!

Imagine if Bill Gates, or Steve Jobs, or Walt Disney, or the Wright Brothers...left their fantastical hobbies alone until they had made it in the "real world"... Well, the real world would sure be a different place wouldn't it?

So what's that got to do with chance conversations...

I would never have spoken to the gal that had Rheumatoid Arthritis and told her to stop eating tomatoes...and set her on a course where a year later she's off all medications and has never felt better or been healthier.

I'm pretty sure she's happy I'm not a realist!

Whatever world you live in, whether it's reality based or dream based...we can all see that the human race is in a lot of pain...we are unhealthy, malnourished. And not just nutritionally. Many of us are what I fondly call a Hot Mess...

When you turn on the tv, look at how many commercials are for pharmaceuticals, how many reality shows are popular because of negative drama? And "the news" is mostly negative...all shared with dramatical musical scores!

Ten years ago I graduated from The Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and I'm glad to say that my dreaming has helped me to find the best way that I can be a positive part of humanity...and it all started with a chance conversation!

That conversation put me on the path to being able to combine all of my and your experiences and to develop the programs and techniques I share today...I am a part of a recognized movement...a community of dreamers...and we are sharing our fantasy of living in a world that enriches our lives...and creates even more dreams.

I went out and proved to myself that the noise...the static I was receiving was just that...noise from the very person who needed the fantasy most...I proved it through finding the need...Major corporations are recognizing the need for and hiring Leadership Management, bringing Coaching and Wellness into the work place.  Bills including Health Coaching language have been passed this winter in Congress....Jane and John Doe...every individual needs something...

So take a chance on a conversation...drown out the noise of the naysayers, believe in your dreams...change your life, change the world.

Spring Has Sprung

Somehow us Humans mark life by events and timelines...Fall, Winter, Spring...We say we're going to accomplish things, make promises, commitments to achievements. And Spring is a great time of year to feel hopeful about fulfilling those promises because everything is so new. So full of LIFE!

It's a stark comparison to the New Year's Resolution...You have hope for changing the old habits of the past year...but Winter is cold and dark....yes we tend to hibernate...and our resolutions fall by the wayside. And then...we start to get lazy.

So, it's the first day of Spring, we gather up the lingering hope of what we'd resolved to do...it's only March after-all, plenty of time left in the year to focus and accomplish our goals!

Have you defined your goals?

Start with knowing your principles...your core values. Knowing who you are will help you not just keep resolutions, but maintain a lifestyle. Clarifying and defining your core values is big...You must ask yourself questions...What are your ideas, goals, dreams...Do you see your worth , your value...How do you approach life to get what you want...

The questions seem easy...till you have to answer them! Give it a try... Bring new life to those New Years Resolutions...and remember, each day we can choose to have or be or do anything!

Letting Go & Holding On

One year ago I wrote a letter to my best friend....the theme was that no one should go through this life, this world, without knowing how very much they are loved. Friendships...especially the ones that are dear to our hearts are very often hard to find. 

When an extraordinary person comes into your life - let them know it....

You may have known this person forever, a childhood friend. Perhaps just meeting...or maybe reuniting with your soul mate...having known them long ago, many lifetimes ago...

However you know someone, when there is love...it must be told, shared...And love will always be the reason for good...for hope...

Because dreams do come true when you dare to shoot for the moon. Hope turns into faith, and love gives strength...to go on...

Let go of fear, share your love...hold on to hope....for always, forever and a day.

Good Fortune

Have your stars aligned? Have you found your good fortune? It is something that we think about this time of year...finding our passions...resolving to be better...changing our stars...

So how can you change your stars? It sounds unrealistic, as if it were a line from a fairy tale...but those are just words. The reality of what you do is not devalued by the way you speak...the flourish that you give your words...And that is exactly how you change your stars...by the attitude that you have.

Many a true optimist has been criticized for being too much "in their own little world", always seeing the silver lining...basically annoying the heck out of their pessimist counterpart.

In "reality" it's usually a "true pessimist" that can find the negativity in just about anything. They will always find a reason why something won't work, or an excuse that will deflect responsibility from what they have failed to do...In the meantime the optimist keeps plugging along with a can-do attitude...knowing that anything is possible. We just know (us optimists) that it's determination and a little bit of elbow grease that take us to our destination....our Good Fortune.

This Vote Rocked Us

Well...It's finally November 9th. We can all sigh with relief that the election is over. Or can we?

It seems that this election cycle created such a divided community amongst the voters. Not only did we have two true "personalities" that were way outside the box, unconventional. They had such flaws...real character issues...scandal even! This election was truly off the rails.

I've never seen such drama surrounding a Presidential campaign...and perhaps that was what caused everyone to become so inflamed with all the rhetoric...'passionate' can't describe the level of "enthusiasm" that our fellow voters displayed.

Besides the drama leading up to November 8th...this voting hangover that my fellow citizens have today! The outrage...the tears...the fears...I am simply stunned at the level of shock and dread that a majority of Americans are feeling today.

But as my grandmother always used to say...everything works out for the best. Trump's tag line was: Let's Make America Great Again....So I challenge everyone to stay involved...hold him to it...He says he's going to make us proud...let's help him make America great again by becoming the best that we can each be...and become active citizens...ALL the time. Let's each of us be the reason for American Pride.

100 Times

Have you done something a hundred times? What made you keep doing it? Were you practicing something...getting in repetitions so you could learn it, or perhaps become the best at it?

Or were you trying to decide something...should I do this...the questions swirling in your mind? Perhaps reading an email, a contract...a document that showed you something you had not seen before...Something you were reflecting on.

Are you open to learning something new? Are you able to look at a thing from more than one angle? Can you benefit from the information being digested?....Fifty, seventy-five, ninety-nine times...what was your motivation to get to the hundredth time...

Once or twice is a fluke, ten a curiosity...One hundred is passion, meaning, you own it. One hundred times means you care...whether you know it or not....you're committed, it got under your skin!

Go out there and find something...or someone, who makes you want to do something so worthwhile you look forward to doing it a hundred times! Again and again and again!

Loosey Goosey

Not one of us is ordinary. At least not in our own stories. We are all unique and although there may be similarities... we are all driven by reasons...and they are generally related to love and pain.

Love can take your breath away...in joyous moments or in the loss of it...The pain of lost love, whether it is yourself that is lost or another...

Love is a tricky little bugger, and we do our darndest to hang on to it in all forms...so why is it so tricky to hold onto, so hard to keep it from slipping away when we have it? Or even to find it at all? It seems like such a small percentage can hang on...What makes it possible?    

"You see it all around you

Good lovin' gone bad

and usually it's too late when you realize what you had

And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago

Who told me

Just hold on loosely

But don't let go

If you cling too tightly

You're gonna lose control"                  38 Special

Hold on loosely. It sounds so easy...and it's quite possibly the hardest thing to do...Because we want it sooo badly! We want to be loved, adored and cherished.

When are we going to look within? This is where you will fall in love...and learn to love another...this is where you will teach another...this is where you will become beautiful. Where you become strong, desired, alluring.

You need to love yourself. Adore and cherish YOU.